Coaching Forgiveness To The Grudge-holding Child

A parent writes: Our nine year old is forever holding grudges against friends and family. How can we coach him to be more forgiving?

One of the many challenges that confront children is inevitably woven into peer and family relationships: forgiving those who have done wrong. Mistakes and disappointments committed by others find their way into every child's life, giving way to various emotions and behaviors. Some children firmly hold on to blaming indignation as if to punish the person who is at fault. This can go too far and ripple through other relationships, spreading negativity and leaving the offended child appearing petulant and unreasonable.

If your child finds forgiveness hard to come by, consider these coaching tips to help change your grudge-holder into a forgiver:

If your child is to listen with an open mind, start the discussion when your child is not holding a grudge....

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Child Murder by Mothers: A Critical Analysis of the Current State of Knowledge and a Research Agenda

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OBJECTIVE: Maternal filicide, or child murder by mothers, occurs more frequently in the United States than in other developed nations. However, little is known about factors that confer risk to children. The authors review the literature to identify predictors of maternal filicide and identify gaps in knowledge about maternal filicide.

METHOD: Databases were systematically searched for studies of maternal filicide and neonaticide (murder in the first day of life) that were conducted in industrialized countries and were published in peer-reviewed, English-language publications after 1980.

RESULTS:Women who committed filicide varied greatly by the type of sample studied. Neonaticide was often committed by young, poor, unmarried women with little or no prenatal care.

CONCLUSIONS: The results of the review suggest that little is known about the predictors of maternal filicide and that a systematic, focused program of research on reliable markers for maternal filicide is

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Justice For Victims Of Spouse Abuse In Divorce And Child Custody Cases.

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Unequal power positions and domination-subordination roles of battering husbands and battered wives during marriage contaminate the process of separation and divorce. These dynamics may continue long after the marriages cease. Risks of extreme violence, rape, and homicide are highest when victims seek freedom. Because both victims and abusers construct a veil of secrecy while married, even if abused wives disclose the violence during the separation process, there may be nothing to substantiate their claims. Restraining orders often fail to restrain obsessed husbands; other husbands may get revenge by using their children as pawns. Attitudes favoring fathers' rights and joint custody may help win unfair financial advantages, and/or continued control over victims after divorce. Mandatory mediation in some states may give abusers additional advantages. Although some of these problems are being addressed with mechanisms to ameliorate them, the need to recognize problems facing...

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What To Do If I Am Separated, Pregnant With Another Man’s Child And Want A Divorce?

Question Details: I left my husband 3 years ago and since, both my ex and I have moved on and had no contact but we never divorced. We are not legally separated; we just don't have anything to do with each other. I became involved with someone else 2 years ago and moved to another state last year. My boyfriend has always known that I'm still married to my ex but that it is nothing but a meaningless piece of paper. My ex is also in a relationship with another woman. I am now 7 months pregnant but since I am still married to my ex, I want to know how I can get a no hassle uncontested divorce (which I know my ex will agree to). I want to be able to put my boyfriend's name on the birth certificate without issue, as he is the rightful father...

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History Of Child Sexual Abuse And Adult Sexual Fantasies

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The study investigated the hypothesis that women with a history of childhood sexual abuse would report different sexual fantasies from women with no childhood sexual abuse. Women with a history of abuse had more force in their fantasies, had more sexually explicit fantasies, began having sexual fantasies at a younger age, and had more fantasies with the theme of being under someone's control. Women with a history of childhood physical abuse did not have a similar pattern. It was suggested that the sexual fantasies may reflect the sexualizing effect of childhood sexual experiences and that fantasies of the abusive experience may become intrusive.

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Child Beauty Pageants: Growing Up On Stage

When viewing the different subcultures that exist in our society, child beauty pageants and the individuals who participate in these competitions are commonly associated with behaviors that are against social norms. I will discuss the historical background of these pageants and how they were modeled after the famously known pageant, Miss America. I will also explain how child beauty pageants are a subculture and the manner in which they are represented in the media through Toddlers & Tiaras, a reality television show, and a documentary, Living Dolls. I will propose how I would represent this subculture as a documentary including my argument for my representation.

A History of Beauty Pageants in America

When looking at child beauty pageants, these competitions can be traced back to the first beauty pageants for women in Miss America. What exactly is a beauty pageant? According to Sarah Banet-Weiser,

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Sexually Motivated Child Abduction Murders: Synthesis of the Literature and Case Illustration

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Sexual murders involving children generate intense media attention and widespread public concern, despite their infrequency. Empirical research on this type of murderer is surprisingly scarce in light of the interest in this topic. Most studies have looked at sexual murderers of adult women, neglecting to look at those who murder children. This article reviews the current research on sexual murderers of children, especially those who abduct their victims. Available literature suggests that sexual murderers of children tend to form a relatively homogeneous group, matching several characteristics of the sadistic offender, and differing from sexual murderers of adult women in several ways. Some sexual murderers of children abduct their victims. These crimes, which are usually committed by strangers, can be extremely difficult to investigate. Following the review and synthesis of the relevant literature, a case study of a man who abducted,..

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The Psychological Development of the Child

The child can only live his childhood; to understand childhood is the province of the adult. But whose vantage point is to prevail, the adult's or the child?  The adult recognizes differences between himself and a child. But these differences are usually reduced to the quantitative, to a matter of mere degree. When he compare himself with a child, an adult sees the child as relatively or eve totally incapable of actions or tasks he himself can accomplish. These inabilities can shed light on differences in mental organization between the child and the adult.

An adult demonstrates his egocentrism through his conviction that all mental development must naturally and inevitably lead to modes of thought and feeling exactly like his own and bearing the particular stamp of the time and place in which he lives. If he does somehow manage to achieve the insight that a

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Psychiatric Mechanisms In Child Murderers

Most child victims of homicide are killed by a parent or step-parent. This large population study provides a contemporary and detailed description of filicide perpetrators. We examined the relationship between filicide and mental illness at the time of the offence, and care received from mental health services in the past.

Method All filicide and filicide-suicide cases in England and Wales (1997–2006) were drawn from a national index of homicide perpetrators. Data on people in contact with mental health services were obtained via a questionnaire from mental health teams. Additional clinical information was collected from psychiatric reports.

Results
6144 people were convicted of homicide, 297 were filicides, and 45 cases were filicide-suicides. 195 (66%) perpetrators were fathers. Mothers were more likely than fathers to have a history of mental disorder (66% v 27%) and symptoms at the time of the offence (53% v 23%), most often affective disorder. 17% of mothers had schizophrenia or other delusional disorders. Overall 8% had schizophrenia. 37% were mentally ill at the time...

See Also: Filicide: Mental Illness in Those Who Kill Their Children

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The “I Feel Like a Child” Syndrome

If our various child parts are not fully integrated into our adult self, we're likely at times to feel like a child inside an adult's body. We won't be able to feel truly grown up because our basic sense of self hasn't sufficiently evolved into the actual adult we've become. Our chronological age, our body, our mind may all say "adult" . . . but our psyche nonetheless continues to say "child."

To put it more concretely, when present-day circumstances tap into old, unresolved doubts or fears--that is, distressful feelings that may go all the way back to childhood--we'll experience ourselves in the same way we did in the past. (And to be honest, looking back at our lives, which of us hasn't many times felt unsure, or defective, or unsafe?) If we haven't yet managed to "assimilate" the growth or maturation that typically

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Photosensitivity Associated With Antipsychotics, Antidepressants And Anxiolytics.

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Photosensitivity reactions evoked by systemic agents are the result of the effects of the agent combined with subsequent exposure to light. Photosensitivity induced by exogenous parenteral agents accounts for an increasing portion of the total undesirable effects caused by environmental chemicals. The exponential increase in the number of new drugs introduced each year may be one of the factors explaining the increased number of reports describing photosensitivity induced by exogenous agents. There are many reports of photosensitivity caused by antipsychotic and antidepressant agents. Although the majority of the research was focused on the photosensitising potential of chlorpromazine, other antipsychotics and antidepressants have been shown to cause cutaneous photosensitivity. An extensive drug history must be taken whenever a patient presents with a reaction limited to, or accentuated in, light-exposed areas. It should be remembered that these...

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Missing White Woman Syndrome How Media Framing Affects Viewers’ Emotions

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In this experiment, the study of missing white woman syndrome is extended to video coverage to determine whether visual framing and race have an effect on the emotions of viewers. Missing white woman syndrome relates to the idea that stories about attractive, young, white females who go missing are more prevalent in the news to the exclusion of similar stories about other demographics. This study examined the relationship between race and framing effects through a factorial design experiment and posttest questionnaire. Experimental conditions compared television news stories about women of different demographics who are portrayed differently in both visual and nonvisual frames. Results showed that visual framing did affect the emotions of viewers, but the race of the missing person did not...

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Objective Assessment Of Sexual Arousal In Women With A History Of Hysterectomy

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Objective The potential contribution of psychological and anatomical changes to sexual dysfunction following hysterectomy is not clear. Radical hysterectomy for cervical cancer causes surgical damage to the autonomic nerves which are responsible for the increased vaginal blood flow during sexual arousal. Simple hysterectomy causes more limited nerve disruption. Photoplethysmographic assessment of vaginal pulse amplitude objectively measures vaginal blood flow during sexual arousal. We hypothesised that damage of the autonomic nerves results in a disrupted vaginal blood flow response during sexual stimulation.

Design Between-groups comparison of vaginal pulse amplitude.

Setting University hospital.

Sample Twelve women with a history of radical hysterectomy, 12 women with a history of simple abdomonal hysterectomy and 17 aged-matched controls.

Methods Photoplethysmographic assessment of vaginal pulse amplitude during sexual stimulation by erotic films. Self-reported ratings of subjective sexual arousal were collected after each erotic stimulus condition...

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Working with Sexual Offenders via Psychodrama

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Aim/Background: This paper describes a program providing group therapy to adjudicated adult male sex offenders and sex addicts via Psychodrama and discusses its format and program evaluation data. Topics treated in the sessions and means of approach are described. The format of work is outlined in manual form, rationales given for treatment choices, and evaluations of the program by the men in it are reported on.

Materials/ Methods: A description of procedures used and a manual are provided for others who may wish to use the practices described. Data are taken from program evaluations and self-reports.

Results: Numerical data and essay style quotes from program evaluations are provided which show that the men in the program find psychodramatic work personally meaningful and developing social bonding.

Conclusions: What the data reveal, limitations, and what directions we would like to move in future are described....

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Chapter 2: Sexual Etiqutte in Islam

Sexual intercourse and the sexual j with a legal spouse are governed by nature, and at the same time is a sunnah of the Prophets and the Ahlul Bayt (as). It has even been referred to as the most pleasurable thing in life. A group of companions and Shī°as of Imām as-Ŝādiq (as) narrate that the Imām asked us: “What is the most pleasurable thing?” We said: “There are many pleasurable things.” Imām said: “The most pleasurable thing is making love with (your) spouses.”1

It is also narrated from Imām as-Ŝādiq (as): “Whether in this world or in the hereafter, one has not, and will not, perceived a pleasure more pleasurable than sexual relations with women, and certainly this is the commentary of the words of Allāh (SwT) in the Qur`an, in Surat Āli-’ Imrān, verse 14 where He states: “To mankind has been made...

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The Child Sexual Ause Accommodation Syndrome.

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Child victims of sexual abuse face secondary trauma in the crisis of discovery. Their attempts to reconcile their private experiences with the realities of the outer world are assaulted by the disbelief, blame and rejection they experience from adults. The normal coping behavior of the child contradicts the entrenched beliefs and expectations typically held by adults, stigmatizing the child with charges of lying, manipulating or imagining from parents, courts and clinicians. Such abandonment by the very adults most crucial to the child's protection and recovery drives the child deeper into self-blame, self-hate, alienation and revictimization. In contrast, the advocacy of an empathic clinician within a supportive treatment network can provide vital credibility and endorsement for the child. Evaluation of the responses of normal children to sexual assault provides clear evidence that societal definitions of "normal" victim behavior are inappropriate and procrustean, serving...

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