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The Age and Crime Relationship Social Variation, Social Explanations

February 21, 2019October 27, 2017 by admin

The relationship between aging and criminal activity has been noted since the beginnings of criminology. For example, Adolphe Quetelet (1831/1984) found that the proportion of the population involved in crime tends to peak in adolescence or early adulthood and then decline with age. In contemporary times, the FBI's Uniform Crime Report (UCR) arrest data (1935–1997), particularly the Crime Index (homicide, robbery, rape, aggravated assault, burglary, larceny-theft, auto theft), document the consistency of the age effect on crime. They also reveal a long-term trend toward younger age-crime distributions in more modern times. Today, the peak age-crime involvement (the age group with the ...

When Friends & Family Disapprove of Your Relationship: Is the “Romeo & Juliet Effect” Real?

November 17, 2018October 27, 2017 by admin

One of the things I love about being a relationships researcher is that I can sit down to watch a Hollywood flick and consider it productive timebecause it gives me so many great research ideas. Hollywood loves to investigate the inner workings of relationships and love, albeit not always with the most accurate or "empirically informed" lens. Take, for instance, the concept of support for romantic relationships. This is a widely studied topic in social psychology and has graced the screens of numerous Hollywood flicks. According to how love stories typically play out on the silver screen, love conquers all, opposites attract, and in-laws are terrifying creatures. For example, in The Notebook, Allie’s parents deceive Noah and Allie because sadly, Noah is from the "wrong side of the tracks"...

Needing to Win — Ten Mean Fighting Strategies

November 17, 2018October 27, 2017 by admin

All intimate partners have conflict from time to time. When people blend their lives together, they are bound to see some situations differently and need to resolve those differences. Disagreements are stressful for everyone and, depending on how partners treat each other during conflicts, they will either bring a couple closer together or increase the emotional distance between them.

Disputes that lead to greater understanding and new perspectives can actually increase excitement and continuing discovery in a committed relationship. Romantic partners who have learned how to argue productively while maintaining respect for each other can create a new emotional universe that neither could have created alone.

In contrast, many partners fight in ways that consistently hurt their relationship. One or both become need-to-win combatants, establishing a superior position at the expense of their partner’s. As disagreements escalate, they use any behaviors and strategies they can muster...

The Strange Relationship Between Power and Loneliness

November 17, 2018October 27, 2017 by admin

Both power and loneliness are studied extensively in the social sciences, yet few researchers have examined the relationship between the two. So my colleagues and I conducted eight studies to do exactly that, finding evidence that it’s not quite as lonely at the top as most of us assume. In our research, attaining power actually led people to feel less isolated from others, and lacking it led them to feel more isolated.

While debunking conventional wisdom can be satisfying, it’s important to think about the limits of these conclusions. Consider this comment by Thomas J. Saporito, chair and CEO of the leadership consulting firm RHR International: “I’ve spoken with 200 plus CEOs, [and] there are precious few that didn’t, in the privacy of our discussions, talk about loneliness.” Saporito’s observation syncs up with polling data by Harris Interactive Service Bureau...

Ambush Dating: Unraveling the Mystery that All Started with a Big Bang!

November 17, 2018October 27, 2017 by admin

If you’re familiar with The Big Bang Theory, you’ve probably found yourself pondering the attraction between Leonard and Penny. Seriously, how did a geeky scientist and a Cheesecake Factory hottie ever find themselves together? For a show focused on evolutionary principles, their union always brings to my mind the lyrics, “Is she really going out with him?” or at least leads me to anticipate one of Sheldon’s well-timed, sarcastic taunts of “Bazinga!” My personal explanation…the Ambush Date!

What is an “ambush date”, and why have you never heard of it? Well, I made up the expression. I do that sometimes when there isn’t scientific terminology to explain a real experience, particularly one as intriguing as the dating equivalent of a flash mob. Although the name may be new, you are probably familiar with the experience. Or, perhaps you’ve even been ambushed....

A Qualitative Analysis of On-Again/Off-Again Romantic Relationships: “It’s Up and Down, All Around”

November 17, 2018October 27, 2017 by admin

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Although relational research predominantly conceptualizes romantic relationships as either together or apart, some relationships break up and renew (i.e., on-again/off-again relationships). Partners’ accounts of on-again/off-again relational experiences were qualitatively analyzed to explore both reasons for breakups and reasons for renewals. Themes were interpreted within an interdependence framework to explain why partners dissolved as well as renewed their relationships. The themes in combination suggest renewals occurred due to dissatisfying experiences with alternative relationship partners and an increase in outcomes (i.e., rewards minus costs) after breakups. Partners’ post-dissolution contact and their uncertainty about relational status may have further facilitated renewals. More generally, the themes suggest, for on-again/ off-again partners, breakups did not indicate the end of interdependence but rather a redefinition of the relationship...

Ending Toxic Relationships Now

November 17, 2018October 27, 2017 by admin

A toxic relationship is a relationship that is emotionally damaging to at least one partner. Toxic relationships deplete you of your energy, infuse you with negativity, bring unnecessary drama or conflict to your life, trigger feelings of low self-esteem, insecurity, resentment, or frustration. Toxic relationships stifle your personal growth, make you feel less than, or even worthless outside of the relationship with the toxic counter-party. Toxic relationships consistently lead to these negative feeling states despite your concerted efforts to work out any such feelings and engage honestly anew.

It’s important to realize that toxic people are often unconsciously making you feel how they feel about themselves; in other words, it is more about them than it is about you. It’s important for all of us to routinely take inventory of our support systems and care enough...

Bias And Accuracy In Close Relationships: An Integrative Review

November 17, 2018October 27, 2017 by admin

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Intimates typically are positively biased in their relationship evaluations. Given this fact, how can intimates regulate their esteem needs about their relationships and still function effectively, without risking later regret and disappointment? We address this issue by first reviewing work showing that because bias and accuracy are independent, they can co-exist. We next show how bias and accuracy are subject to different evaluative motives, relationship evaluations, and situations. It is argued that the pursuit of important goals is a time when people are motivated to feel good about their relationships. This is a time when relationship judgments are positively biased and relatively inaccurate. However, important choice points in the relationship are times when people are motivated to both accurately understand their relationships and to feel good about their relationships. These dual needs can be simultaneously met by becoming more accurate....

Passion, Humiliation, Revenge: Hatred in Man-Woman Relationships in the 19th and 20th Century Russian Novel by Irina Lapidus

November 17, 2018October 27, 2017 by admin

This book reveals the phenomenon in Russian prose in which a male protagonist finds himself perpetuating a cycle of passion, humiliation, and revenge within his relationships with women. By examining the mental and emotional state of the male protagonist who finds himself in a sexual situation, Rina Lapidus explores how his passion for a woman leads the man into an encounter that causes him humiliation and ends up eliciting a powerful desire on his part to punish the woman who initially arouses his erotic feeling. The male protagonist directs his fury at the woman, seeking vengeance because of the shame he has suffered.

Lapidus shows how the man sees himself as a highly spiritual being and finds it difficult to comes to terms with his sexual nature. The author argues that this denial of desire leads the man to take out his...

US Department of Stating the Obvious Declares Father-Daughter Relationships “Important”

November 17, 2018October 27, 2017 by admin

According to Peggy Drexler's op ed in today's Washington Post, the father-daughter relationship not only impacts women in their future relationships with men, women take their father's hypothetical approval or disapproval into account for all of their major decisions as adults as well. At our core, what we want is to be a nation of Daddy's girls. Cue the Father/Daughter dance music that makes all the wedding guests uncomfortable! (Suggestion: Butterfly Kisses)

We know that fathers play a key role in the development and choices of their daughters. But even for women whose fathers had been neglectful or abusive, I found a hunger for approval. They wanted a warm relationship with men who did not deserve any relationship at all.

Part of this need takes form early in life-when a father is a girl's portal to the world of men. I call fathers...

Everything You Need To Know About Long-Distance Relationships

November 17, 2018October 27, 2017 by admin

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Just a few decades ago, if you were in a long-distance relationship and wanted to talk to your significant other, the only way to do so was to make a call using a phone that was connected to a landline. Meaning, if you wanted to talk to one another, you'd actually have to be at home (or find a payphone), which required planning ahead. And if you were dealing with a time difference, you had yet another layer of difficulty to navigate when carving out time to connect.

But thanks to the technology of today, there are countless ways to stay and feel connected to your partner when you're navigating a long-distance relationship. From tagging each other in funny memes on Instagram to sending photos, texts, Face Timing...

The Politics Of Inter-Racial Relationships In Asian America

November 17, 2018October 27, 2017 by admin

Last week a reader left a comment on the post about Euna Lee and Laura Ling that expressed surprise at seeing the white male husbands of Lee and Ling and noted that seeing such pairings can lead to "ANGRY ASIAN MEN."

So I wanted to talk, today, about specific inter-racial pairings, namely those of white men with Asian American women.

[Caveat: I am, for today's post, limiting my discussion to the politics of inter-racial relationships among heterosexual couples. There are dynamics and politics involved in queer inter-racial relationships, esp. among gay men with phrases like "rice queen" getting invoked to describe certain preferences/fetishization (word choice depends on where you fall in the debate) of Asian men by white men, but since the commenter was discussing ANGRY ASIAN MEN in the context of Ling and Lee's inter-racial marriages, I wanted to contain my comments to this...

Interpersonal Relationships And Irrationality As Predictors Of Life Satisfaction

November 17, 2018October 27, 2017 by admin

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This study examined the association among interpersonal relationships, irrational beliefs, and life satisfaction. Twenty-eight psychotherapy clients and 207 college undergraduates completed measures of interpersonal relations (Outcome Questionnaire; Lambert et al., 1996Lambert, MJ, Burlingame, GM, Umphress, V, Hansen, NB, Vermeersch, DAClouse, GC. 1996. The reliability and validity of the Outcome Questionnaire. Clinical Psychology and Psychotherapy, 3: 249–258.[Crossref], [Web of Science ®], [Google Scholar]), irrationality (Rational Behavior Inventory; Shorkey & Whiteman, 1977Shorkey, CT and Whiteman, VL. 1977. Development of the Rational Behavior Inventory: Initial validity and reliability. Educational and Psychological Measurement, 37: 527–534. [Google Scholar]), and life satisfaction (The Satisfaction with Life Scale; Diener, Emmons, Larsen, & Griffin, 1985Diener, E, Emmons, R, Larsen, R and Griffin, S. 1985. The Satisfaction with Life Scale. Journal of Personality Assessment, 49: 71–75.[Taylor & Francis Online], [Web of Science ®], [Google Scholar]). Results indicated that interpersonal...

When You Say Nothing at All: Non-Disclosure in Intimate Relationships

February 20, 2019October 27, 2017 by admin

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8 interviews and 2 groups of ginabayang talakayan revealed the range of motivations/intentions that increased the probability of non-disclosure of a significant other in an intimate heterosexual relationship and the range of reactions elicited by the non-disclosure. The researchers also looked into the possible topics that were often not disclosed. We found that the range of motivations for non-disclosure, largely based on the anticipated consequences after disclosure, could be classified into three depending on who will benefit: a) self-centered non-disclosure; b) other-oriented non-disclosure; and c) kapwa-oriented non-disclosure. To put this range of motivations into context, a cognitive model, which suggests the steps a discloser goes through in deciding whether to disclose or not, was posited. Finally, the benefits of non-disclosure in increasing the level of intimacy in a relationship, with emphasis on the shared identity of the two people involved in the,,,

Perverse Relationships: The Perspective Of The Perpetrator.

November 17, 2018October 27, 2017 by admin

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The author examines the theme of perverse relationships within the couple, focusing on the question of men's maltreatment of their female partners, particularly in the psychological sense. Various aspects of the perpetrator's personality and relational style are described. The author takes as her starting point and discusses in depth the concepts of 'narcissistic perversion' (Racamier, 1992) and 'relational perversion' (Pandolfi, 1999), considered useful for understanding and identifying this type of pathology. She postulates that maltreating behaviour, in fact, originates from the encounter of particularly non-empathic relational styles which are typical of certain personalities (mainly, but not exclusively, of the narcissistic disorder) with 'perversity', that is, perversion, understood as a character trait. The author makes a distinction between 'relational perversion' and 'sado-masochistic relationship', and presents a clinical picture deriving from the analysis of a man who maltreats his companion,... . .

Memory Bias In Long-term Close Relationships: Consistency Or Improvement?

November 17, 2018October 27, 2017 by admin

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How do partners in long-term relationships construct memories of the past? The current study examined 20 years of retrospective and longitudinal data from a sample of wives to evaluate two possible answers to this question. Findings indicate that wives invoke different theories of the past at different stages of life. At 10 years into the study, wives’ memories of the past were negatively biased, such that present ratings seemed a significant improvement. At 20 years into the study, wives’ memories of the past continued to be negatively biased; however, at this stage, recollections of the past resembled current perceptions. Across both intervals, concurrent ratings in fact declined significantly. Longitudinal analyses revealed that the degree of bias in wives’ memories at Time 2 predicted the course of their marital satisfaction over the subsequent 10 years. These results support the view that...